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Default Life Update - 07-28-2014, 09:19 PM

I didn't know if I was going to make one of these or not. But here I am. I haven't been really personal in a long time, so we will see how this pans out...

I recently got a new job at a local grocery store as a cashier. I'm pretty excited about that and I get paid once a week so that's better than once every two weeks. Socially, I've been lacking. My group of friends kinda declined after high school, but hey, I was expecting that. What with my car broke, and everyone going off to colleges, it's just been hard to keep up with everyone.

I've actually been doing pretty crappy. I tell everyone in real life and on the internet that I'm doing great, but the truth be told I've been pretty depressed. My life at home has been stressful. I'm 18, so my parents like to tell me to move out whenever they get mad at me, even though I've already expressed the fact that I'd prefer to stay at home while I go to college (which is ANOTHER thing that is stressing me out). Yet, still, they continue to repeat the same words. Now, they've even gotten my brother into the habit of telling me to move out whenever we argue. My family is far from completely dysfunctional, but we do have our problems. Of course I love them, but they're putting me in this situation where I want to find a roommate and move out during college. Anyways, that's one reason I've been stressed lately. Another being the fact that college is right around the corner (I'm not going until spring). I have no college fund, nor have I been saving money like I should have (not that I've been working for very long). I'm going to have to apply for grants and stuff, and I really don't have help with that. Not to mention what I can't cover with grants I'll have to get student loans. I know it's not an uncommon thing, but I was so determined to be able to go to college without having to be in debt while I did it. But I don't want to sound like I'm whining because I could have it's lot worse. There's still a lot that I don't want to say, because some of it's still too personal. But there's a lot going on with my family that's been causing stress on not only myself, but my family as well.

Anyways, other than that, I can't complain about anything major. I just really wish that things would go right in my life for a change. But I don't like being that guy that sulks over every bad situation. Which is why when asked, I say I'm doing fine. That's why you guys rarely see negative anything from me. I don't like to be perceived as that type of person. But I guess this is one of the first times I've been really honest with you guys. It has taken long enough, right?

I don't really know what else to add. I guess I just wanted to update you all on my life since it's probably been over a year since I posted anything that had to do with myself and how I was doing.
  
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Default 07-28-2014, 09:57 PM

To be completely honest with you. I felt as If I was reading a book written by a fantastic and legendary author. To begin, I am happy you found a place where you can be excited for the next day (for now). Starting off at a new job isn't easy until you get the hang of it. But I'm also sorry that you are losing high school friends by and by. It comes with maturity I guess. And don't worry about the moving out part. My brother is 22 and he still lives with my mom since he isn't very adventurous you could say. He likes to stick to his usual route and doesn't like to try anything new. He needs someone to guide him. I have seen many families that are happy and better off. But I have also seen the other end of the food chain. Many people are just like you so you don't have to feel like nobody has your back. I encourage you to do everything in your power to complete college and pick a career you're happy with. Many people are in debt because of college loans. And normally it lingers if you don't graduate. If I could, I would help donate for your college but sadly I don't have any extra money laying around. I know some people who have a surplus of stress. And they can't seem to shake it with the constant events happening in their lives. It is just a typical thing to have in life. Some people are those types of people who like you said "sulks" around over every little negative thing. I think you're better than that. I think of it this way, somebody in this world is worse than me. Then that person worse than me, has a person worse than them, And so on. You had the guts to say what was in your life and to that I thank you. If something does happen to come up, feel free to share it with me or anybody else. I am a great listener and observer and would love to hear more. I appreciate the time you took to write this thread.

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To be completely honest with you. I felt as If I was reading a book written by a fantastic and legendary author. To begin, I am happy you found a place where you can be excited for the next day (for now). Starting off at a new job isn't easy until you get the hang of it. But I'm also sorry that you are losing high school friends by and by. It comes with maturity I guess. And don't worry about the moving out part. My brother is 22 and he still lives with my mom since he isn't very adventurous you could say. He likes to stick to his usual route and doesn't like to try anything new. He needs someone to guide him. I have seen many families that are happy and better off. But I have also seen the other end of the food chain. Many people are just like you so you don't have to feel like nobody has your back. I encourage you to do everything in your power to complete college and pick a career you're happy with. Many people are in debt because of college loans. And normally it lingers if you don't graduate. If I could, I would help donate for your college but sadly I don't have any extra money laying around. I know some people who have a surplus of stress. And they can't seem to shake it with the constant events happening in their lives. It is just a typical thing to have in life. Some people are those types of people who like you said "sulks" around over every little negative thing. I think you're better than that. I think of it this way, somebody in this world is worse than me. Then that person worse than me, has a person worse than them, And so on. You had the guts to say what was in your life and to that I thank you. If something does happen to come up, feel free to share it with me or anybody else. I am a great listener and observer and would love to hear more. I appreciate the time you took to write this thread.

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The fact that you read my thread thoroughly is one thing, but thank you for such a detailed reply. It really meant a lot. I wish we had more people like you around these forums. They sure as hell would have a lot more content.

Really, thank you. This made my night.
  
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The fact that you read my thread thoroughly is one thing, but thank you for such a detailed reply. It really meant a lot. I wish we had more people like you around these forums. They sure as hell would have a lot more content.

Really, thank you. This made my night.
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Default 07-29-2014, 06:32 AM

Study loans are not a good thing to start your life with, nevertheless it's better than not going to college I suppose. I hope you're saving money now to minimize your loans.


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Study loans are not a good thing to start your life with, nevertheless it's better than not going to college I suppose. I hope you're saving money now to minimize your loans.
Doing my best to save what I can. But I already pay for all my own stuff pretty much (including phone bill, insurance, etc.) so I don't have a whole lot of money to save at the end of the month, but it's enough to help out.
  
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Default 07-29-2014, 09:49 AM

Here is how I feel about this.

Having problems with your family is normal, everyone has their own. You have to learn to live with them even if they tell you to move out. Do they actually mean it? I don't think so... And I don't think they would kick you out either, any decent parent would not do that. So you don't have to worry about it. They're not gonna kick you out knowing you want to go to college and get a good job. If you absolutely feel the need to move out, you can, but it will be much harder to live with money wise. Living on your own is something, but living on your own when you're in college can be tough, unless you go for a single room.

As for student loans, you'll have to borrow money somewhere if you want to be able to pay for college... If you want to make money, you've got to spend money first. It's a debt, but also a good investment. Think about it. You go to college for what? 2-3 years? You get a good job after and 2-3 years after your debt is cleared/almost cleared. I say go for it, even if it costs a lot..

I have like 4-5k in debt and I'm not even in college yet.. I have a lot of things to pay and have trouble saving money too. This is when student loans come in handy. Don't wait like I did. You'll only be stacking bills & you'll feel guilty about it.

tl;dr: Go to college asap. Don't think about the money. Get good education. #winforlife


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Here is how I feel about this.

Having problems with your family is normal, everyone has their own. You have to learn to live with them even if they tell you to move out. Do they actually mean it? I don't think so... And I don't think they would kick you out either, any decent parent would not do that. So you don't have to worry about it. They're not gonna kick you out knowing you want to go to college and get a good job. If you absolutely feel the need to move out, you can, but it will be much harder to live with money wise. Living on your own is something, but living on your own when you're in college can be tough, unless you go for a single room.

As for student loans, you'll have to borrow money somewhere if you want to be able to pay for college... If you want to make money, you've got to spend money first. It's a debt, but also a good investment. Think about it. You go to college for what? 2-3 years? You get a good job after and 2-3 years after your debt is cleared/almost cleared. I say go for it, even if it costs a lot..

I have like 4-5k in debt and I'm not even in college yet.. I have a lot of things to pay and have trouble saving money too. This is when student loans come in handy. Don't wait like I did. You'll only be stacking bills & you'll feel guilty about it.

tl;dr: Go to college asap. Don't think about the money. Get good education. #winforlife
Thanks for the advice. Like I said, things are worse than I make them seem within the house and that's personal stuff that I don't wish to get into.
As for college, I know I'm going. Maybe you're right, waiting is a bad decision. I'm going to go in the spring no matter what, and I'm going to get the student loans i need. Because you're right. If I get the right job, I'll be able to pay off those loans in no time. It'll suck while I'm doing it, but afterwards it'll be well worth it. Thank you for making me realize that.
  
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Default 07-29-2014, 12:08 PM

I personally think you should move into a dorm for college, especially for your freshmen year as it'll help you meet new people and you said your social life is lacking.

Also, what college are you going to?

If you go to lsu me and you can split a room.
  
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Default 07-29-2014, 12:50 PM

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Here is how I feel about this.

Having problems with your family is normal, everyone has their own. You have to learn to live with them even if they tell you to move out. Do they actually mean it? I don't think so... And I don't think they would kick you out either, any decent parent would not do that. So you don't have to worry about it. They're not gonna kick you out knowing you want to go to college and get a good job. If you absolutely feel the need to move out, you can, but it will be much harder to live with money wise. Living on your own is something, but living on your own when you're in college can be tough, unless you go for a single room.

As for student loans, you'll have to borrow money somewhere if you want to be able to pay for college... If you want to make money, you've got to spend money first. It's a debt, but also a good investment. Think about it. You go to college for what? 2-3 years? You get a good job after and 2-3 years after your debt is cleared/almost cleared. I say go for it, even if it costs a lot..

I have like 4-5k in debt and I'm not even in college yet.. I have a lot of things to pay and have trouble saving money too. This is when student loans come in handy. Don't wait like I did. You'll only be stacking bills & you'll feel guilty about it.

tl;dr: Go to college asap. Don't think about the money. Get good education. #winforlife
That's what alot of students think, and most of them end up as slaves for the bank.
The american system is pretty ridiculous. Some European politicians want to change it into something like america, but luckily enough that's not getting much support.


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