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Default Need some advice. - 10-17-2011, 10:00 AM

This is serious i actually need advice.. Not some stupid attention seeking thread.
Don't be asking "omfg!?!?!? what's up??" on msn... it just makes it worse.

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Okay. Before i start i'm going to give you a brief of my usual routine.

I go to college Thursday & Friday 9am-5:30pm every week.

The other days i just sleep till mid day. I wake up go on my laptop talk to mates and see what they're up to. Maybe go out and meet some of them do something fun. ( Which is very rare seeing as we don't do much because they're mostly busy )

If not half the time when i have nothing to do i just sit in my room on my own with my music in to keep me going on as well as SG untill i feel like i can't be bothered to play it for a few hours. Then i just listen to music.
Basically my second heart. ( Music )

Lately I've been feeling depressed and just like that feeling were you can't be bothered any more with anything and just want to kill yourself.. In fact I wouldn't call it lately I'd say a few months now like 3-4. I've also started loads of habits i don't normally do.

These include :

> I eat way less then i used to.
> Alcohol increase. I even take it to college..it's that bad.
> Smoking. ( Occasionally )
> I sleep less and struggle to sleep at night, when I do I wake up 2 hours later. Then I'm up the rest of the night.
> I find it extremely hard to socialise even with my own friends now.
> I get angry really quickly.
> Self harming.

Thing's i've done to help me.

Not play SG for countless hours a day like a used too. ( Has helped i guess )
Talking to friends on MSN and not real life face to face because I find it a lot easier to express myself and i'll literally just cry..
They give me good advice.
The only thing i do is listen to music..without it i don't know where'd i'd be.

As for parents. Well they keep moaning a me lately for everything I do.
As in literally anything I do I fuck up and just fail.
Then get moaned at.
So i don't even talk to them or bother going out with them.
I just get my music in before i just feel like ending it.

If not i just walk out and walk around my area listening to music just to get out the house and block it all away.
Then come back when it's quiet..

As for a girlfriend I used to have one.
Till she left me to move away to spain.
I couldn't come we said our goodbyes.

I can’t even control my negative thoughts, no matter how much I try.

Life just gets worse..
It's not even a life worth living.

I've tried everything and anything.
Nothing helps.

Nothing.

Basically how i'm feeling.






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Default 10-17-2011, 11:38 AM

Hmm.. Maybe try finding a girlfriend? Or find more things you enjoy and that makes you happy, maybe a hobby and just do that more often.
Drinking alcohol won't help you, it may just damage you in the long run. Give your parents nothing to moan about, try and be perfect. I can't think of anything else, for now.
  
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Default 10-17-2011, 11:45 AM

Bro,I'm not the man to give you advice but i'll take a shot.
Stay optimistic,Try lowering the alcohol and the smoking.
And there are more than a billion girl in this life,You loved someone then she had to leave,keep your head high your straight as an arrow and all girls love that about you and wish to go through a relation with you "No homo".
Try to ignore what your parents tell you and keep thinking in a positive way.
Focus on your studies and surmount these obstacles.
Take care bro,tried my best.





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Default 10-17-2011, 11:54 AM

I can't say that I've ever felt like this, but I do get kind of stressed during the week because of college. One that that helps a bunch for me is to just go out for a walk, walk somewhere new every time. I also usually have Pandora going on my phone and that brings up new songs and things. I guess what I'm getting at is that change is nice. It should help with your sleep too.

I guess it doesn't work for everyone, but I suggest you try it.


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Default 10-17-2011, 12:42 PM

If I were you, I would:

1- Study and get better grades
2- Stop/reduce smoking
3- Reduce Alcohol
4- Go out more often
5- Listen less to music, I'm not saying you stop listening to it, but try avoiding it because its a mood thing.
  
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Default 10-17-2011, 08:45 PM

Just try relaxing a bit more try to find some fun things to do like just little things you enjoy. Play some games or card games Or any games you enjoy with some other people. Maybe people you don't hang out with often. When ever i feel mad or anything i usually just try and clear my mind and think about the better moments in life. You can also try meeting more with your family maybe not just your parents like your grandparents or uncle or aunt and close family-friends. Talk to them and tell them whats going on. It's not always the worst thing to do. They can help a lot of the times. Also maybe getting a job. It would maybe perhaps get you mind off of those things. Whenever i go to work i try to focus on one thing and that is to do the best i can that individual day. I hope atleast some of the stuff i said helpes you a lot. But yea hope you don't feel like that anymore.


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Default 10-17-2011, 09:25 PM

This concerns me on a level that nobody can comprehend.
Your situation is the same as mine not a few months ago.
Even now, things are pretty bad.

With this being said, there are some things that need to change immediately.
And trust me, it's not going to be easy; even I haven't fixed it all.


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Sleeping Pattern: Your sleeping pattern has most likely shifted due to the fact that you're sleeping in until mid-day. Your body can't handle this shift and is rejecting the need to sleep. Your consumption of alcohol and smoking can also affect your sleep. Basically, stop drinking, smoking, and wake up at a reasonable time (for me, 10pm is the latest).
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Mood Swings: An obvious cause for this is alcohol consumption. Although, depression can also intensify aggression. These probably won't stop until you get yourself back on track.
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Social: Your depression is causing insecurity, and is making it difficult for you to socialize with your friends. Your best bet is to fight it head on. Remember that your friends are always there for you. They wouldn't be your friends if they weren't.
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Girlfriend: God, I understand this one too well . For me, this was the route cause of my depression. I'm not sure what yours is. I can only give sympathy. I'm not sure if you want advice with woman, or added this in to kind of vent about losing her.
I'm putting a lot of effort into this post because i'm hoping that by trying to help you, you'll be able to help me. Believe it or not, we're going through almost the same situation. Sure, some parts are different, but the idea is the same. Anyways, typing up my situation below in a spoiler.

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Default 10-18-2011, 05:30 AM

Stay optimistic, and stop smoking ;o
I know alot of storys of smokers.
They all started becuz of stress in college..
Drink a cup of coffee, and go for tha day
  
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Default 10-18-2011, 05:09 PM

Steven, i'm gonna say you're handsome man, (No homo) and i think you can find a girlfriend.
If you get a girlfriend, your whole life basically changes.

Oh and reduce the smoking and drinking, for the drinking part, ONLY do it every once in a while.
It's gonna be really hard, but you're capable of doing it Steven.


What is it that you are holding on to?
What will it matter when every history book is consumed in the flames?
Soon it will be like you never existed.
Not a single soul will remember your name.
  
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Default 10-19-2011, 05:37 PM

I'm going to try to keep this a bit short. Though I may fail.

So, a lot of what you're explaining happens to me. I'm finding it hard to socialize with new people, not necessarily my friends, as I used to walk up to new people.

Steven, I know you have these dark thoughts, but there was a time when I was having them, and what I did was got to talking to some mates, listened to music loudly, and made sure I wasn't alone.

I spent time on SG, but I wasn't totally active. I tried to spend enough time to enjoy myself, but not so much to get sick of the trolls.


Another thing I did to solve my problems was I would watch a couple movies on Netflix that I know were going to make me laugh, and get me smiling.

It would block so much out when I was occupied.

Having a girlfriend helped a lot also. Cause when you really like a girl, that's all you think about. Or at least that's me.

Plus, you're a good looking guy, you shouldn't have to much trouble. Nohomo intended.


I continued to just try to keep my social life.

Sorry If i'm rambling, trying to help you out as much as possible.

"As for parents. Well they keep moaning a me lately for everything I do.
As in literally anything I do I fuck up and just fail.
Then get moaned at.
So i don't even talk to them or bother going out with them.
I just get my music in before i just feel like ending it.
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God I know this feeling all to well. No matter what I do, it seems like all they notice is the bad things. But, then I did as Miriam said, and tried to become the "perfect son".. It helped, but it also stresses you out a bit. But that can be fixed with music. MUSIC was pretty much what got me through those phases of depression.

Man, I'm sorry you're dealing with this.
If you ever need me, you can add me on my personal skype.
"iRockNikesx2"


I hope this helped a bit man, I really do. :3
  
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