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Exclamation Fighting with Parents - 09-15-2012, 09:32 AM

hopefully there are some that can relate.

Me and my dad argue all the time. At this point, I just wanna get the hell out of my house.

The main thing thats bothering me is college. Today my dad was supposed to help me make a College application. After maybe 5 minutes, we completely start arguing over my goals and life. If there was ever one person to make me mad, it'd be my dad. He repeatedly tells me I'm wasting my life and that I'm going to get nowehere in life. Usually, this doesn't bother me. I was there when he said he was disappointed in me and I was there when he said I was a loser. Today however, was different; at a special point in the conversation he begins to call me a failure and that I'll be working at McDonalds for the rest of my life. I always disagree with him and try to prove him wrong, but at some points it's useless arguing with someone who doesn't even believe in me. He looks at me like I'm worthless and a pain. After I walked away, I overheard him talking shit about someone, who I thought was me. Being an angry person, I said "can you shut up?" It turns out he was talking about one of his workers and how lazy they were. I did feel bad but at the same time I don't regret it. My mom expects me to say sorry to him even though she doesn't know what I go through with him. I honestly wish I could talk to his dad and see how much they argued with eachother. I've always thought of running away but I know that's not going to benefit me.

In a situation like this what should I do? Should I talk to him, pray, run away or what?

Have any of you ever argued with your parents to the point where your done with them?



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Default 09-15-2012, 09:35 AM

just ignore it, it's your life. make your own decisions and mistakes
what you want and what your parents want for you is completely different

oh and don't run away unless you have terrible living conditions and he's making your life utter hell. praying on it's own will do nothing but give you false hope, if you want to pray in junction with an actual action (talking) then that's fine. he's probably one of the stubborn types so if you can't get it into his head that this is what YOU wanna do, then honestly don't bother any more.

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Default 09-15-2012, 09:38 AM

I know exactly how you feel. I had a similar fight with my dad and it got really ugly. Haven't spoken to him in two years.
  
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Default 09-15-2012, 09:53 AM

First of all. Take a walk. Calm down, and think things over. Second, are you really doing what you wanna do in terms of college/future jobs etc.? If so, then when you talk to your father about it again (it is inevitable) make it clear that nothing will change your mind. Lastly, explain the misunderstanding you've had with your father about his co-worker, and that you didn't mean it, and apologize to him.
Sorry things are going badly for you man... Me and my father used to fight all the time a couple of years back. It gets better if you talk to him about it.
  
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Default 09-15-2012, 09:00 PM

My father is the same.

I just learned to develop selective hearing, and i shut him out
I hate my dad though.

Its tough having a parent like that...




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Default 09-15-2012, 09:05 PM

Honestly Ameer, listen to your dad.

They know what's best for you and they want you to live happily. You won't regret anything.

They'll ask you to follow a life path, you can do that, and if things don't work out, you can always change.

They love you and know what's best.


  
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Default 09-15-2012, 09:10 PM

i say try to talk to your mum about it, maybe she can get to him, but hey, you never know his father may of done that to him, and he just wants the best for you, he doesn't want you being a scum or having a shit job, or like no job at all.


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Default 09-15-2012, 09:12 PM

With my father, it is similar, yet rather different. First he'll be the greatest father ever, then the next moment he will be on my case about something, and he'll be a total jerk about it. For a while I kind of brushed this off, but it got to me at one point and I started just yelling at my father every chance I got. All of that I regret now because I do know he loves me, yet has his own ways of showing affection, and the fact that he was raised in a somewhat hostile household reflects through his behavior.

My advice to you is to talk to your mother about it. If your father is anything like mine, a confrontation of "listen, I hate the way you talk to me" will detriment your already somewhat detrimented relationship with your father. Talking to him through your mother will help, or merely venting to your mother about him. If she starts to defend him, go to your friends. Honestly, talking about it will just make every encounter seem lesser because you've vented about it. Trust me, I feel loads better after I vent to my mother about my father, and it's a damn good feeling.

If you want someone to vent to, I can relate and would be more than happy to listen.


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