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Default Cancer. - 11-07-2012, 12:10 PM

Dad just been diagnosed with lung cancer.

To be honest i thought I'd be sadder, but we've not been that close. That and it was kind of for see able as he wasn't looking his best lately.

I think I want to get to know him better now, but not sure how to approach it... We have no common ground... He likes sport, I resent it, he likes Pop, I like metal.

We don't get on well, and I', not sure whether or not to change that... is it too late?

Results come through in a week. Wish him luck.


  
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Default 11-07-2012, 12:13 PM

If he's been there for you and your family then you should make an effort no matter what.

I'm sorry to hear about your father and I hope that everything turns out well in the end.


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Default 11-07-2012, 12:20 PM

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If he's been there for you and your family then you should make an effort no matter what.

I'm sorry to hear about your father and I hope that everything turns out well in the end.
How do I be there?

Might sound a stupid question... but I seriously don't know.


  
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Default 11-07-2012, 12:43 PM

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Dad just been diagnosed with lung cancer.

To be honest i thought I'd be sadder, but we've not been that close. That and it was kind of for see able as he wasn't looking his best lately.

I think I want to get to know him better now, but not sure how to approach it... We have no common ground... He likes sport, I resent it, he likes Pop, I like metal.

We don't get on well, and I', not sure whether or not to change that... is it too late?

Results come through in a week. Wish him luck.
It's your Dad, you should be able to approach him no matter what. If you show him that you care for his condition and are there to support him through a rough time that will open a doorway so you can get to know him better. I don't really think that you have to have common likes to get along with each other, if your having a hard time just sit down with him or find a chance to get him alone and spark a conversation with him. Remember you miss 100% of the shots you don't take and if he has cancer there is a possibility of him to not be around in the future so take this opportunity to get to know him. My grandma died from ovarian cancer and I knew her good, but hell I wish that I spent every moment of my life with her around and I regret not understanding that people we love won't be around forever and that we have to cherish what we have now even if they are not there for us at some points. Also if you need someone to talk to I'll be here for you, I understand what it's like to go through this; I'll keep your dad in my prayers.






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Default 11-07-2012, 01:12 PM

Just talk to him every day. Ask him how his day went, cook meals with him or do other household chores, just anything to spend time with him. Watch some telly with him as well.
My family always wants me to spend time with them, and they don't mind if I'm on my laptop as long as I'm in the same room as them. As I type this, I'm sitting in my living room with my mom and dad watching TV. That could make the difference too.
Although... now that I think about it... is he in hospital? If so, just visit him as much as you can to have a chat with him.

It's never too late to change man.





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Just talk to him every day. Ask him how his day went, cook meals with him or do other household chores, just anything to spend time with him. Watch some telly with him as well.
My family always wants me to spend time with them, and they don't mind if I'm on my laptop as long as I'm in the same room as them. As I type this, I'm sitting in my living room with my mom and dad watching TV. That could make the difference too.
Although... now that I think about it... is he in hospital? If so, just visit him as much as you can to have a chat with him.

It's never too late to change man.
He's going to hospital in 3 days then after that it a depends how long he stays...

I'm not to close with my family... to late to change?


  
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He's going to hospital in 3 days then after that it a depends how long he stays...

I'm not to close with my family... to late to change?
Alright well in that case try and visit him in hospital as much as possible.
And no. It's never too late to change. You family needs you now more than ever, and I'm sure they'll welcome you with open arms if you're willing to try.





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He's going to hospital in 3 days then after that it a depends how long he stays...

I'm not to close with my family... to late to change?
It's never too late. Try to make amends and get along with him in this time.
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Default 11-07-2012, 03:27 PM

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He's going to hospital in 3 days then after that it a depends how long he stays...

I'm not to close with my family... to late to change?
Just like other people said, it's never to late to change.
And it's your dad, just have a talk with him about your school or whatever and the conversation will continue about other stuff and you two will have a great conversation together! Talk about your hobby's, school, friends, what you do in your spare time or what ever. Your dad cares about you. And you care about your dad ofcourse. You both want the best for each other. But sometimes it needs some time. Just like my dad, we don't see each other often. I know something horrible could happen any time and i would regret it not seeing my dad for a long time.

My advice for you, go to your dad, stay a few days with your dad to keep up the relationship and keep texting each other to keep up the relationship.
I hope your dad is going to be fine.
Your dad and you also have my prayers mate.
  
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Default 11-07-2012, 03:29 PM

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How do I be there?

Might sound a stupid question... but I seriously don't know.
Just keep him on his feet and help him get through it. If you can find a way to get to him, then get there.


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