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Default Rumors. - 09-18-2012, 01:27 PM

Hello everyone. Figured I'd write out some more stuff/advice seeing as this is a place where I can just write and let out feelings and all of that sappy stuff. It helps.
So, here's the situation: Yesterday (Monday), my friends pulled me aside to talk to me. I was quite worried because they all seemed very grim about the whole situation. They told me: "Pat, we have reason to believe your girlfriend (8 months) is cheating on you." At first, I couldn't believe it, and told them they were wrong, but they told me what they had heard from other people (all rumors). So, I got back to where I was and talked to some of the names mentioned of people who had spread the rumors to see if what they had said was true or not. Here's the thing: Their answers were all very vague, and they didn't mention any names. There was no specific information.
Now that's just one part of the puzzle. I also had to think, would she cheat on me? After some thinking, I came to the conclusion that any girlfriend who has done and continues to do as much for me as she does, would not cheat on me. I still ha to confront her however, so I did and said: "So my friends have told me they have reason to believe you're cheating on me." She got this confused look on her face, one that said "Why would they think that?" I then asked her, "Are you cheating on me? Have you been doing anything thing with anyone else?"
She started crying, and got mad at me, because she was disappointed that I even had to ask a question like that, and honestly, I do feel bad for having for a short time believed the rumors. That's the point. This whole shitstorm, a day later, where I'm getting people saying their sorry for my loss, she's getting dirty looks from people, and I'm mad at my friends, her friends for spreading this whole thing. All of this, from a rumor, something that isn't true.
So, my advice to the majority of you, the people who are in high school, even a middle school environment, don't spread rumors that aren't true. It affects people. and hurts feelings and, in my case has put some stress on my relationship. People's private lives are none of your business, and, in all honesty, no one really gives a shit for more than a day or two. I'm not stressed about the whole situation, because I know the braindead kids at my school will stop caring in a week, and move on to someone else to patronize. My girlfriend however is quite upset by the situation, all over a stupid rumor.

TL;DR: Don't spread rumors, they may end up upsetting a lot of people.

EDIT: Wow this is a ramble. Sorry... I just needed to get this shit written out. Like I said, I really don't care who reads this, it just helps me to get stuff like this out.
  
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Default 09-18-2012, 04:00 PM

I dID it i read it fully!
O.t:I hate rumors too are you getting back with her or what?
  
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Default 09-18-2012, 04:06 PM

She's cheating on you.

She did a blush tactic.
When you confronted her she turned the situation round on you, cried and sulked.

That's a delay tactic so she has time to think of what to say.


  
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Default 09-18-2012, 06:18 PM

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She's cheating on you.

She did a blush tactic.
When you confronted her she turned the situation round on you, cried and sulked.

That's a delay tactic so she has time to think of what to say.
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Not all girls are like that.

You have to talk to her about the situation, let her know you just wanted to know why everyone said what they did.

Avoid blame, or anything that would make her upset (assuming the situation is already making her upset) and comfort her before you talk about it, if you can.


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Default 09-18-2012, 10:37 PM

what if she is cheating on you?
does she have a history or cheating?
But now you will always think something is happening, your trust will go and get harder.

I've been in a relationship for almost 3 years now, people make so many rumors up because they're jealous of your relationship or they want to be with that person.
maybe your friends don't like your partner?

Anyways,
Rumors are fucking stupid !


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Default 09-19-2012, 09:03 AM

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I dID it i read it fully!
O.t:I hate rumors too are you getting back with her or what?
Yes we are still together.

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She's cheating on you.

She did a blush tactic.
When you confronted her she turned the situation round on you, cried and sulked.

That's a delay tactic so she has time to think of what to say.
I can assure you, this girl tells me everything, even when she poops. She would never lie to me, and she has never broken a promise to me. I'm not worried.

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what if she is cheating on you?
does she have a history or cheating?
But now you will always think something is happening, your trust will go and get harder.

I've been in a relationship for almost 3 years now, people make so many rumors up because they're jealous of your relationship or they want to be with that person.
maybe your friends don't like your partner?

Anyways,
Rumors are fucking stupid !
I trust her just as much as I did before this all happened.
  
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Default 09-19-2012, 09:25 AM

I don't know your girlfriend but I'd expect an angry or blunt response to "Are you cheating on me?"

I'd expect "No, you idiot. Why would you believe that?" or "No, they're just rumours." Maybe she'd be a bit disappointed that you'd consider that she cheated.

Getting really upset when asked if you're cheating seems strange to me but maybe I'm just odd.

She seems kinda innocent and naive so maybe she's done something tiny in the past that's no big deal, by coincidence these rumours have started and now she's worried about it.

I hope everything works out for ya.
  
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Default 09-19-2012, 09:56 AM

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I don't know your girlfriend but I'd expect an angry or blunt response to "Are you cheating on me?"

I'd expect "No, you idiot. Why would you believe that?" or "No, they're just rumours." Maybe she'd be a bit disappointed that you'd consider that she cheated.

Getting really upset when asked if you're cheating seems strange to me but maybe I'm just odd.

She seems kinda innocent and naive so maybe she's done something tiny in the past that's no big deal, by coincidence these rumours have started and now she's worried about it.

I hope everything works out for ya.
Yeah she has a past that I'm not willing to share on here. I probably brought up some bad memories etc, because she's trying to leave all of that behind, so that's what probably upset her. She did say she was very very disappointed in me for believing my friends at first.
  
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