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Question I Don't Know it anymore - 11-14-2012, 04:02 PM

Hey guys,

Some of you might have seen and spoken to me in-game.
But I am going to to tell you guys a little story and i am hoping for some good and mature imput.

So, My girlfriend and i are together since 26/12/2011.
After nearly 11 months i still didn't get to meet her dad.
When she sees him somewhere, she hides, she lies to be with me...etc..
Since september i've been asking her to set up a meeting between her father and me.
Yet, after 2 months and a half, this has not happened.


What should i do, Cuz i know if i just let it slide, it will just not happen at all..

Kind Regards and thanks in advance,

Kristiaan
  
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Default 11-14-2012, 04:08 PM

Respect her need.
She obviously doesn't have a good relationship with her farther.
I think from the sounds of it you can guess why? Some form of abuse.

You should talk with her and sort things out. It wont be an easy talk that's for sure.

Find out what it is that makes her shy away and hold you back, think about it (An answer might not be needed straight away) and then act upon it the way you think is best.

If your answer is to solve it, DON'T go do it yourself, it would have to be her, although you can be there to support her the whole way through it, or what you deem necessary.

What ever the problem is, just think before you act, about what the possible outcomes of your actions may be. Evaluate situations carefully. But most importantly just do what's best and respect her opinions and needs.


  
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Default 11-14-2012, 04:08 PM

She's ashamed of being with you.

Or she is suffering abuse at home with her father.


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Default 11-14-2012, 04:10 PM

Well bro tbh ask her what the problem is with you that she doesn't want you to meet her dad cuz that seem's kind of fucked up, I mean honestly if she thinks you shoudln't meet her dad then idk if you guys should be together like I don't know if your bad or something like that to where he wouldn't like you but you should tell her you want to meet him cuz you're going to half to eventually you know? Tell her that too that you guys won't be together for a long time until he finds out or something like that then he would just be pissed things like this never end in a good way she would be better off letting you meet him then hiding it if she actually cares about you.
  
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Default 11-14-2012, 04:12 PM

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Respect her need.
She obviously doesn't have a good relationship with her farther.
I think from the sounds of it you can guess why? Some form of abuse.

You should talk with her and sort things out. It wont be an easy talk that's for sure.

Find out what it is that makes her shy away and hold you back, think about it (An answer might not be needed straight away) and then act upon it the way you think is best.

If your answer is to solve it, DON'T go do it yourself, it would have to be her, although you can be there to support her the whole way through it, or what you deem necessary.

What ever the problem is, just think before you act, about what the possible outcomes of your actions may be. Evaluate situations carefully. But most importantly just do what's best and respect her opinions and needs.
The problem is just that she is from another culture... well she is born in my country etc... I just want to talk to her dad. i've been supportive...
Its hard for me to take care of her like we life together etc...

  
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Default 11-14-2012, 04:16 PM

Another culture like what? Because that can be the problem.
If it was a religion or belief it could be that her dad is orthodox and might disprove and so to protect you or not lose you she hides you away.

Anyway I'm drifting away, tell me about the culture thing?


  
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Default 11-14-2012, 04:28 PM

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Another culture like what? Because that can be the problem.
If it was a religion or belief it could be that her dad is orthodox and might disprove and so to protect you or not lose you she hides you away.

Anyway I'm drifting away, tell me about the culture thing?
Her family is assyrian, that are the christian people in turkey.
I am christian to, but i think, that her dad is pre-judging me cuz i am Belgian.
But i just want to show to him, how much i love his daughter, and that i don't have bad plans or stuff like that with her...
I Just want to have a good, mature relationship with my girlfriend.
I Really love her to death.
But this is tearing me appart.

Thank for the answers so far guys!
  
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Default 11-14-2012, 04:30 PM

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She's ashamed of being with you.

Or she is suffering abuse at home with her father.
You're such a dick..

Just give it more time.
  
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Default 11-14-2012, 04:31 PM

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You're such a dick..

Just give it more time.
Since i asked for mature input, i am ignoring his comment.
  
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Default 11-14-2012, 04:32 PM

you may have to show up at her house and confront her dad yourself
  
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