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Default So I'm in a bit of a situation - 02-08-2013, 09:50 PM

What do you do when you'll be 21 in a few weeks, and you're a shift manager, and you really like one of the girls on your shift... but not only are you her boss, but she's also only 17?



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What does it do?

If you think she likes you too, why not make a move.
  
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What does it do?

If you think she likes you too, why not make a move.
Even despite the age difference, the fact that its considered pedophilia if we do anything, or that I'm her boss?



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Where do you live?

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Because not only is that illegal for him to date a minor, but he can lose his job for associating in a sexual manner with employees.

You let it go and move on. Period.
True. Still 3 -4 years isn't that big of a difference. Maybe it seems bigger at that age.

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What does it do?

If you think she likes you too, why not make a move.
Because not only is that illegal for him to date a minor, but he can lose his job for associating in a sexual manner with employees.

You let it go and move on. Period.



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Where do you live?
Pennsylvania, in the US.

As far as losing my job is concerned, I dont know if I'd lose it unless you could prove favoritism. I don't play favoritism at all. I treat everyone as they deserve to be treated. I've proved that with friends before. Thats why I have this internal debate. Had I not been able to keep favoritism out of wok, I wouldnt even be considering this.



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Pennsylvania, in the US.

As far as losing my job is concerned, I dont know if I'd lose it unless you could prove favoritism. I don't play favoritism at all. I treat everyone as they deserve to be treated. I've proved that with friends before. Thats why I have this internal debate. Had I not been able to keep favoritism out of wok, I wouldnt even be considering this.
What do you think others will think when they find out you're having sex with an employee?

Not to mention, even consensual sex is illegal in every state when it's under 18 years of age.

It's statutory rape in a legal sense.

It is in fact legal to fraternize with employees, but at her age it's definitely not okay.
You can get some pretty hefty jail time for it. If she says anything, you lose it all.

Consensual or not, it's classified as statutory rape and underage sex.

That in every sense is jail time.



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True. Still 3 -4 years isn't that big of a difference. Maybe it seems bigger at that age.[/B]
It's not about the small difference in age, its about the fact that she's a minor and I'm not.

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What do you think others will think when they find out you're having sex with an employee?
Not to mention, even consensual sex is illegal in every state when it's under 18 years of age.
It's statutory rape in a legal sense.
It is in fact legal to fraternize with employees, but at her age it's definitely not okay.
You can get some pretty hefty jail time for it. If she says anything, you lose it all.
Consensual or not, it's classified as statutory rape and underage sex.
That in every sense is jail time.
I never mentioned sex with her. Being only 17, I refuse to have sex with her. I've been in that situation before, where my friend's dad threatened to have me arrested because he found out that her and I had sex. That said... other employees would probably assume that we are. What could this cause? Do you guys think it would be possible to date her, keep it legal, and keep it secret?



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It's not about the small difference in age, its about the fact that she's a minor and I'm not.


I never mentioned sex with her. Being only 17, I refuse to have sex with her. I've been in that situation before, where my friend's dad threatened to have me arrested because he found out that her and I had sex. That said... other employees would probably assume that we are. What could this cause? Do you guys think it would be possible to date her, keep it legal, and keep it secret?
That's not up for me to decide. If you feel that 4 years is an "okay" age to be dating difference, and you can keep it with out sex, then whatever suits you. Just keep your appearance between employees the same or you can get in trouble with that.

Just remember the age difference comes maturity difference. If you want to date someone with considerably lower maturity than you, be my guest. It'll be quite a challenge and won't last. Never does. Well, in most cases it doesn't...

But think about it... why would you date someone you can't touch? There's no fun in that if you ask me.



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Default 02-08-2013, 10:27 PM

If i could reiterate what Britt said, it would be a bad idea to go after he because of the whole under aged thing. Id think the best thing to do is to either wait until she turns 18 to try to make a move towards her. Or do it now but hold off having any type of sexual acts until she is 18. As far as i know its not illegal for someone over 18 to have a gf thats under 18, as long as there is no sex or any type of affectionate acts, right? Athough that would be quite hard to hold off on something like that








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