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Default [Real life] Emotions - 04-15-2013, 08:04 AM

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"Love is an emotion a feeling of wanting and needing somebody or something and always want that person to be happy. love is strenght since we human beings are social animals love and relations connect and support us. love is sympathy, its fun. i guess its everything you like or makes you happy. if you fly a kite and makes you happy it means you LOVE flying kites, if someone gives you happiness you love that person. If you love a person even sometimes if he/she hurts you, you still love him/her.
love is life - where there is love, there is life (Gandhi)"

Today I got into thoughts about love and what it gives us.
The main thing when I think of love/relationships is all the emotions you go through.
Happiness
Anger
Depression
Excitement
Nervous
So on so on

But the big one that seems to always be there...
Jealousy.

What I mainly want to talk about is what emotion you think is the biggest factor of ruining a relationship?

I've notice no matter how much you love someone and even trust them you will always experience jealousy.
Is it because you actually think they're gonna do something? Or is it because you dont want to lose something that makes you happy?
Many relationships in my past, there has been jealousy. Doesnt matter if I was the person jealous or my partner that was jealous. It was always there.
I know our community is a younger crowd that havent experienced alot of the relationship "storm of emotions" - What I like to call it.
Which would lead alot of you to say well.. Trust should over come jealousy. Well.. Sadly. No.

I've watched many relationships get thrown away cause of people being greedy with eachother.
And its strange. Cause even though it ruins everything in the back its very romantic.
One side they're greedy and selfish but on the other side. They're protective and scared of losing the one thing that makes them happy.


So what do you think about Jealousy in relationships.
OR
Do you think another emotion is the biggest factor of why relationships end.



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Default 04-16-2013, 06:06 PM

When people ask for advice on relationships, or about something that has happened.. They don't realize that every person is different, along with every circumstance. I think some people are more jealous than others. I think the the biggest factor to why relationships end, varies. For some I would say jealously, some boredom (Just want someone else), maybe just unhappy, who knows.

I think the bigger question is why do you start a relationship to begin with? I think people are too concerned with what they see outside of what someone truly is. If that makes any sense.


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Default 04-16-2013, 06:09 PM

I think the main reason why people end relationships is because of annoyance.
That would be something I guess I should work on.

Also since I have thought about it I have been jealous.
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Default 04-16-2013, 06:43 PM

I think one of the main reasons couples in any sort of relationship split up is just a matter of personalities clashing. Many people don't want to be with someone who they think is trying to outdo them or just show up. Alot of people also don't like obsessive relationships.
  
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Default 04-16-2013, 07:03 PM

Well, naturally the reason one would want to start dating another, is to get closer with that one other person.
To share what they have to offer and enjoy themselves while having someone there alongside them to enjoy it.


Many things cause jealousy, and I believe most relationships end for one of two reasons.
Jealousy or feelings have changed.


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Default 04-16-2013, 07:04 PM

I've talked to people about this, so I guess I'll give my input. I guess since I have never been able to keep a stable relationship, let alone fall in love, I can't really say what I think is the way it should be, but whatever.

I'll start with jealousy. It obviously comes from insecurity. When you get rid of those insecurities and finally get to the point where you know your worth, this no longer is a major issue. Your partner wants to cheat? Then tell them straight up that they should do whatever makes them happy, but that they shouldn't expect shit from you. The problem is the "oh my God, I can't live without them" mindset. Like hell you can't. I really believe that no one NEEDS another person to live. You can want someone to support and love you, but someone who is truly strong and who loves and respects themselves can live with just that.

Next, boundaries/conditions. Each person has boundaries and conditions to their love. When all these boundaries and conditions can be respected and fulfilled for both sides, I feel that creates the "perfect" relationship. These boundaries/conditions are also majors factors of thrown away relationships. If your partner who supposedly loves you breaks those rules, they don't respect you. If you you let them do that, hurt you, and just say "it's alright", then I think it means you have no respect for yourself.

I'll end with this last one because it seems like I'm talking out my ass. Another problem is when one or both sides get comfortable with each other. They start the relationship as the "perfect" partner. After some time, people get comfortable and change a little and show their real self. This usually happens when the person believes that the relationship is on lock. There are some things that every couple should remember, and one of them is that your partner will be attracted to another person at some point; this goes for male and female. It's their responsibility to give their partner that something that the other people can't, and that's obviously love. This goes back to boundaries and conditions really.

Like Scout said, there are many factors simply because every relationship is different. So yeah.... That's my shit-talking 'n such.




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I've talked to people about this, so I guess I'll give my input. I guess since I have never been able to keep a stable relationship, let alone fall in love, I can't really say what I think is the way it should be, but whatever.

I'll start with jealousy. It obviously comes from insecurity. When you get rid of those insecurities and finally get to the point where you know your worth, this no longer is a major issue. Your partner wants to cheat? Then tell them straight up that they should do whatever makes them happy, but that they shouldn't expect shit from you. The problem is the "oh my God, I can't live without them" mindset. Like hell you can't. I really believe that no one NEEDS another person to live. You can want someone to support and love you, but someone who is truly strong and who loves and respects themselves can live with just that.

Next, boundaries/conditions. Each person has boundaries and conditions to their love. When all these boundaries and conditions can be respected and fulfilled for both sides, I feel that creates the "perfect" relationship. These boundaries/conditions are also majors factors of thrown away relationships. If your partner who supposedly loves you breaks those rules, they don't respect you. If you you let them do that, hurt you, and just say "it's alright", then I think it means you have no respect for yourself.

I'll end with this last one because it seems like I'm talking out my ass. Another problem is when one or both sides get comfortable with each other. They start the relationship as the "perfect" partner. After some time, people get comfortable and change a little and show their real self. This usually happens when the person believes that the relationship is on lock. There are some things that every couple should remember, and one of them is that your partner will be attracted to another person at some point; this goes for male and female. It's their responsibility to give their partner that something that the other people can't, and that's obviously love. This goes back to boundaries and conditions really.

Like Scout said, there are many factors simply because every relationship is different. So yeah.... That's my shit-talking 'n such.
Very well said.



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Default 04-17-2013, 05:31 AM

I myself am never jealous, instead of being mad about something another person has or does, I go and improve myself. I do not know how it feels to be jealous, I can only be happy for someone that he has achieved something good. eg; ofcourse I'm gonna be sad if someone was with my crush, but I'm happy for the guy that he got her.

Also you should not make love a wide term. If someone makes, I don't want to share my life with him you know...

Real love is rather chemical, if you believe it or not. I think you gotta be lucky to be on the same wavelength like your partner, and that is what binds a good relationship.

So my point is; when the chemicals start to wear off and you're on the same wavelength like your partner, it's not gonna last too long.


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