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Default Sibling Issues - 04-27-2013, 07:53 PM

For as long as I could remember, my sister has been a little spoiled. Not like "Here's a pony and mansion" spoiled, but more of "Stop being mean to your sister, poor little thing, let me help you out" spoiled. I'm usually alright with that; I generally just try to stay out of the way of everyone else.

Recently, my parents have started to toughen up on her. She doesn't always get her way anymore and she's been.....difficult. She's always been filled with attitude, and it's only gotten worse since then. When any of us call for her, she'll just ignore it until she's being shouted in the ear or we actually go out and grab her by the arm. When she doesn't get her way, it becomes a big mess. Last weekend, things kind of bubbled over.

So, when I get the chance, I get out of the house as much as I can. There are two main places to go: the teen center and the library. Both of them are great and nearly the same. My sister wanted to go to the teen center; I wanted to go to the library. My parents decided we should go to the library since we'd gone to the teen center the last few times. My sister gets really mad and starts sulking, but they don't change their minds.

So we bike everywhere (parents are too lazy to drive >.>). I went out to the shed and got the bikes and helmets out while she sits against the wall. I tried to give her her helmet.

"Hey, put on your helmet"
>glares at me and says nothing
"Come on, put it on. You need it to ride"
>continues to glare at me
>I put the helmet on her head, half-jokingly
>She takes it off, and throws it into my glasses
>I flip out, and we start shouting
>Dad comes out, sees what's going on
>yells at both of us, tells my sister to put on her helmet
>she ignores him
>Keeps yelling at her, starts approaching her
>she puts on the helmet, but refuses to buckle the straps
>After my dad tries to get her to buckle the straps, she eventually buckles them and he leaves
>I pull the bikes onto the driveway, and then see that she had unbuckled the helmet again
"Put your helmet on"
"It is on, idiot"
"Put it on properly"
>Glares at me
"Buckle the straps or I'm going to buckle them for you"
>Doesn't do anything
>Dad walks out again, saw that we hadn't left the house yet
>Finally, after a lot of pushing and yelling, she puts on the helmet properly
>Dad leaves again

The moment our father has his back turned, she blows a raspberry at him. I'm pretty sure he heard it, but I guess he just got tired of dealing with us. When we start biking, she refuses to go past crawling speed (it takes a lot of energy just for her to keep the bike standing at that rate), blaming it on me since I "put the bike in first gear". All the while, she's cussing out my parents and me (no swear words though, she doesn't know any. Lots of 'idiots' and 'stupid' and 'blind'.). A trip that normally takes us about 5 minutes takes 45.

These situations have been happening almost daily, and I'm a little flummoxed at how to deal with them. I know that getting mad at your parents is pretty normal as a teenager, but she's been doing this kind of thing every time she doesn't get her way. The constant strain that's being put on our family is wearisome. I believe that everything can be fixed, but I'm not sure how.

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Default 04-27-2013, 08:08 PM

Okay, you know what's wrong with your parents they don't give her a beating. Punishments come in handy. If she's never punished she won't learn. Punishing sounds hard but if we really love our children or sis's it has to happen. I don't mean to say ur parents and you have done a bad job. It's a quick solution to changing. When I was younger I was punished by the wooden spoon from when I was 6 till 12yrs old.

It was very helpful and I'm pleased I'm not the same person.

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Default 04-27-2013, 08:08 PM

Maybe she's going through that awkward puberty state.
  
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Default 04-27-2013, 08:09 PM

Yeah I'm dealing with that with my sister, It's called "puberty", just a phase we all have to encounter with younger ones <.<, I've gotten used to ignoring it ._.






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Default 04-27-2013, 08:12 PM

I know that puberty might be a factor, but she's always acted like this. It's just recently that it's bubbled over, and there's no sign of stopping.


  
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Default 04-27-2013, 08:13 PM

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I know that puberty might be a factor, but she's always acted like this. It's just recently that it's bubbled over, and there's no sign of stopping.
Maybe you need to sit her down and have a serious talk with her, bring up that she's going to miss her family when they're gone and to enjoy what she has, that usually gets to people.






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Default 04-27-2013, 08:14 PM

Tell her if she ever wants to get laid she has to start acting like a non-bitch.
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Default 04-27-2013, 08:23 PM

I think she just wants attention, so just ignore her. She used to get what she wants, but since that changed she's gonna try and get attention any way she can. Try reverse psychology on her. If she doesn't want to put on her helmet just say, "Okay, but if you fall and hurt I don't care." Just call her once, if she doesn't answer I would just leave. I used to go through the same situation with my cousin. We would have a family dinner, but we would have to call her 20 times to come eat. So, we got fed up with it. Instead of waiting for her we ate all the food. She learnt her lesson. :]



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Tell her if she ever wants to get laid she has to start acting like a non-bitch.
My sisters the same

LOL, I think she's too young to be thinking about getting laid. :P
  
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Default 04-27-2013, 08:26 PM

What exactly do you think posting that on a RSPS forum will grant you?

Consult your parents about going to family counselling or something


  
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I think she just wants attention, so just ignore her. She used to get what she wants, but since that changed she's gonna try and get attention any way she can. Try reverse psychology on her. If she doesn't want to put on her helmet just say, "Okay, but if you fall and hurt I don't care." Just call her once, if she doesn't answer I would just leave. I used to go through the same situation with my cousin. We would have a family dinner, but we would have to call her 20 times to come eat. So, we got fed up with it. Instead of waiting for her we ate all the food. She learnt her lesson. :]






LOL, I think she's too young to be thinking about getting laid. :P
That's good advice. The food one won't work, it's more a problem getting her to eat than not, but I can see if that strategy can be applied in other ways. We normally call her down to go somewhere or clean up one of her mess's though, but.....I can find out how to use it.

Pretty sure she's not looking to get laid yet

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Thanks, I might try that too. See if I can crack that shell.


  
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