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Default Being friends with an ex. - 08-01-2010, 09:50 PM

1. Make sure you're over them. Even if you're going to be the best of friends, you both still need some time to collect yourself after breaking up.

2. Make sure your intentions are good. Being "friends" with an ex just to torment them or to prevent them from dating other people doesn't help anyone in the long run. In fact, it makes you look really bad.

3. Check in on them. Send a friendly text message or call them on their birthday. Ask them how things are going. Find out what's new in their life and how they've changed since you dated. Be supportive of their individuality.

4. Let them know that you feel positive about them as a person and that you'd like to be friends with them -- real friends. If you were there for them as a girlfriend or boyfriend, you can be there for them as a friend, too.

5. Tell them that you think they're great and that, for the most part, you wouldn't change a thing about them. (Well, unless they're doing something really mean or stupid.) An ego boost can help mend some of the leftover wounds from the breakup.

6. Avoid sexual and romantic topics -- and the temptation to flirt -- especially when you're starting the friendship. This can be tricky if you have been involved with someone romantically, but you can do it if you stay focused. You don't want to lead the other person on, and you certainly don't want them to lead you on either.

7. At first, keep your conversations and meetings short and, if possible, fun. Remind them just how great you are to hang out with. However, set limits for how often you'll talk to them and hang out with them.

8. Keep working toward your own goals. Don't fall back into negative old patterns from the relationship. Develop your own interests and encourage your ex to do the same.

9. If your ex doesn't seem interested in a friendship, you need to respect their wishes. It may be a possibility in the future, but for now, focus on your other friends.

10. Also, if your ex is not treating you with the same respect you expect of any other friend, it's not a good time to pursue a friendship with them.

Tips:

1. Tell a good friend about your efforts to be friends with your ex and ask them to look out for you. (Hopefully you won't need to ask!)

2. Be friendly, kind and consistent with your ex. Remind them often that you're glad they're a part of your life.

3. Don't blow them off to hang out with your new crush. In general, be aware that they might still be feeling a bit sensitive about some aspect of the breakup and feel weird about you seeing other people.

4. It's quite possible that your ex may not be up for a friendship. Be forgiving and move on if this is the case.




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Default 08-01-2010, 10:02 PM

lol its not all advanced and step by step, Friendship is friendship, not something you can write a Manuel for. Im friends will all my Ex's but one and I read no manual?
  
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Default 08-01-2010, 10:12 PM

Lol same with what iLL said.



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Default 08-01-2010, 11:01 PM

You guys are such downers.

This is really well written.

It's not always easy being friends with ur ex's.



Sometimes we just need a friend.
Someone to hold us when you can't stand.
Sometimes even to pretend like you matter for that split second that everything seems to be crashing down.
And sometimes it's just easier to say goodbye.

  
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Default 08-01-2010, 11:33 PM

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Originally Posted by lil fucker View Post
You guys are such downers.

This is really well written.

It's not always easy being friends with ur ex's.
Thanks Britt.

Anyway, not everyone finds it so easy to tlk to n ex, it took me 3 months to talk to mine once, but now we're best friends. (:




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Default 08-01-2010, 11:59 PM

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Originally Posted by lil fucker View Post
You guys are such downers.

This is really well written.

It's not always easy being friends with ur ex's.
They're right.
Half of this shit doesn't work.

I'll give the best tip of all:
You grow up, be a man about it, and be a gentleman to the woman, and do what she wants. If she wants a friendship, you make it work, if she doesn't, leave her alone.


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Default 08-02-2010, 12:02 AM

Amazed, all I see you do now is troll the forums.

Just leave if you don't like it.




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Default 08-02-2010, 01:19 AM

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Originally Posted by lil fucker View Post
You guys are such downers.

This is really well written.

It's not always easy being friends with ur ex's.

This is Really Well Copy&Pasted, Just a coincidence he posted like 4 threads this long on love life advice? I smell google ;D
  
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Default 08-02-2010, 01:38 AM

Being friends with your ex is norm yo :]
In all honesty though, my ex became my best friend over the years and there's always going to be something in my heart for her that will NEVER go away. It kinda sucks, but eh.



  
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Default 08-02-2010, 01:42 AM

Britt so true lol. Well done on this but


  
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